In life, some people just walk into your life and think they have a right to toss you around any how they like. I’m sure you are thinking what’s he talking about and where is he going to with all this? Not to worry, let me show you.
Most of us have heard ladies say; “I’m just playing with him jo, once I’m done milking him, I’m dumping him so fast he won’t even know what hit him”. Or you may have heard some guys say; “I’m just sleeping with her no strings attached. She is just a play thing you know how we do it”. I think the most annoying of them all is when a guy or a lady knows that someone is attracted to him/her and he/she is just behaving anyhow with the notion that after all, she/he likes me and no matter what I do, she/he cannot leave me. They’ll just take me back after a nice apology.
But they forget that in any relationship be it business or social, emotions are involved and the worst time bomb ever made is that of hurt emotions. It is just a disaster waiting to happen. That is why terrorists will recruit teenagers and children; feed them with all sorts of evil stories about an enemy state they plan to attack. They get these young recruits to develop a deep hatred for the enemy state after which the rest is history. If that were not to be so, tell me why a sane human being would accept to wear a bomb on his person and blow up his/her self just to make sure that he/she takes other people’s lives.
Having said that, the bible says that; “The heart of man is desperately wicked who can understand it”. I want to belief that this verse of scripture is talking about man in his normal state. If you doubt this then tell me, who taught a baby to bite its mother’s nipples while suckling to attract attention? So if in our normal state our heart is desperately wicked, now try to imagine what will become of that same heart when it has been emotionally wounded.
And the most unfortunate thing is that one or more innocent people somewhere more often than not are the ones that suffer the effects of these emotional wounds. I once read in a book that our character is shaped by our experiences. Now imagine what the character of an individual who has faced abuse and hurt would be like. Most problems we have in marriages, homes, business relationships, government and society at large can be traced to one emotional abuse or the other in the lives of individuals. And the alarming thing is that most times, the individual that has been abused emotionally turning to God does not really change anything unless the person is made aware of the fact that they have a problem and he/she accepts it and opens up for emotional healing.
Haven’t you heard of great men of God that will come down from preaching a very powerful message and the next minute, they are throwing anger tantrums or beating up their wives? Those actions and behaviours are traceable to emotional abuse. Take for instance the story of Joyce Meyer, she suffered abuse as a child/teenager and without her knowing it, it helped form the person she became as an adult. If not that God gave her an understanding and patient husband, it would have wrecked her marriage as well. Even as annointed as she is, she tells us in some of her books how much of a struggle it was for her to relate with people her husband inclusive until she got total emotional healing.
What am I saying in essence, if you find yourself in a position where you are consciously or unconsciously taking advantage of someone, abusing the person emotionally, I will advice you to retrace your steps today and ask for forgiveness. If it means walking up to the person and owning up to your actions, do it. Apologise to the person and ask for his/her forgiveness also confess your actions to your maker. The bible says “He is faithful and just to forgive you”.
Mind you, the bible says that what a man soweth that shall he reap and one thing is sure, the harvest is always bigger and greater than the seed so for your own good, please turn a new leaf today.
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