Monday, December 10, 2012
SACRIFICE
Friday, December 7, 2012
Poor in Spirit, that’s the only form of poverty that is allowed in my life sha lolz.
Friday, August 17, 2012
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
ABUSE
Most of us have heard ladies say; “I’m just playing with him jo, once I’m done milking him, I’m dumping him so fast he won’t even know what hit him”. Or you may have heard some guys say; “I’m just sleeping with her no strings attached. She is just a play thing you know how we do it”. I think the most annoying of them all is when a guy or a lady knows that someone is attracted to him/her and he/she is just behaving anyhow with the notion that after all, she/he likes me and no matter what I do, she/he cannot leave me. They’ll just take me back after a nice apology.
But they forget that in any relationship be it business or social, emotions are involved and the worst time bomb ever made is that of hurt emotions. It is just a disaster waiting to happen. That is why terrorists will recruit teenagers and children; feed them with all sorts of evil stories about an enemy state they plan to attack. They get these young recruits to develop a deep hatred for the enemy state after which the rest is history. If that were not to be so, tell me why a sane human being would accept to wear a bomb on his person and blow up his/her self just to make sure that he/she takes other people’s lives.
Having said that, the bible says that; “The heart of man is desperately wicked who can understand it”. I want to belief that this verse of scripture is talking about man in his normal state. If you doubt this then tell me, who taught a baby to bite its mother’s nipples while suckling to attract attention? So if in our normal state our heart is desperately wicked, now try to imagine what will become of that same heart when it has been emotionally wounded.
And the most unfortunate thing is that one or more innocent people somewhere more often than not are the ones that suffer the effects of these emotional wounds. I once read in a book that our character is shaped by our experiences. Now imagine what the character of an individual who has faced abuse and hurt would be like. Most problems we have in marriages, homes, business relationships, government and society at large can be traced to one emotional abuse or the other in the lives of individuals. And the alarming thing is that most times, the individual that has been abused emotionally turning to God does not really change anything unless the person is made aware of the fact that they have a problem and he/she accepts it and opens up for emotional healing.
Haven’t you heard of great men of God that will come down from preaching a very powerful message and the next minute, they are throwing anger tantrums or beating up their wives? Those actions and behaviours are traceable to emotional abuse. Take for instance the story of Joyce Meyer, she suffered abuse as a child/teenager and without her knowing it, it helped form the person she became as an adult. If not that God gave her an understanding and patient husband, it would have wrecked her marriage as well. Even as annointed as she is, she tells us in some of her books how much of a struggle it was for her to relate with people her husband inclusive until she got total emotional healing.
What am I saying in essence, if you find yourself in a position where you are consciously or unconsciously taking advantage of someone, abusing the person emotionally, I will advice you to retrace your steps today and ask for forgiveness. If it means walking up to the person and owning up to your actions, do it. Apologise to the person and ask for his/her forgiveness also confess your actions to your maker. The bible says “He is faithful and just to forgive you”.
Mind you, the bible says that what a man soweth that shall he reap and one thing is sure, the harvest is always bigger and greater than the seed so for your own good, please turn a new leaf today.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Live Life
God is not a man that He would lie neither the son of man that He should repent. Has He said a thing and will He not bring it to pass. This is the assurance that I have in Him that whatsoever I ask of Him, if I believe with no atom of doubt in my mind, He will bring it to pass.
Over the last few days, it’s like I’ve been playing a lot. You know when you have that feeling of not being serious. I had a whole lot of things planned out for this period and all of a sudden it seems as if I put them all on hold to have a nice playtime.
Thinking about this some days ago, I heard the Holy Spirit tell me, “You need to live life, get off the worrying and just live life”. And my response was “I am just playing away my God given time, I’m supposed to be more productive than this”. Excuse me, watching movies all day long in the name of being self employed is not life. And I heard Him say, “That’s part of life”.
And at that point, it dawned on me that in this pilgrimage called life, every moment that passes by that we do not utilize, is a moment lost in time and it cannot be regained. Really, I don’t think that it hurts to sometimes just live life instead of worry through life.
Jesus asked us in Matt 6:27 “Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?”
In the face of the trying times, I know that this might seem like a difficult thing to do but please drop the worries and the fears and just LIVE LIFE.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
THE MAN SON
Anyway, growing up, I noticed that when there was any errand to be run, I was always sent on those errands. The errands seemed to increase in magnitude as I grew older. From arranging our toys after playing (though the girls had most of the toys being that they were more), to walking the dogs. When I started exhibiting tendencies of driving off with the car, came the task of washing the car, then balancing sheets after daily sales. All the while, one question that was constantly on my lips was why me? And my dad never hesitated to say, ‘you are the man of the house’. Truth, it didn’t make any sense at all. My sisters were available and househelps and employees were being paid to do these things but dad kept saying ‘you are the man of the house’.
It all started making sense when dad suffered a stroke while mum was expecting my little brother. Those words ‘YOU ARE THE MAN’, made all the sense in the world at that point. I had to be a father, a mother, a brother, a business man and a student all at the same time. Looking back with hindsight, I was not under pressure it was something I was already doing unknowingly. I remember a few times when my parents would have a misunderstanding, I’d mediate and to my amazement, they’ll heed my counsel and make up. I thank God for seeing me through it all and my dad for helping to mould me even at a young age.
Why am I saying these? Despite your role or position in the family, it is vital to know that you will undergo certain things not for the present but for the future. God might just be preparing you for what is ahead of you. Never you think your parents are partial and seem to favour one or more siblings over you…it’s a training phase. Sometime in the future, you will look back with gratitude to God and your parents for those experiences because then you will realize that they were only meant to mould you into a vessel…fit for the Master’s use.
Remember, God delights in every detail of your life and will make all things work together for your good…that is if you love Him.
Remain Blessed.